Holding Space: Strengthening Relationships Through Presence and Compassion
In this episode of Awakening Process 101, we examine the subtle yet powerful concept of "holding space." Louise and I share what it means to be fully present for someone—whether that’s a friend, a student, or even ourselves. We reflect on the challenges and growth that come with learning to listen without needing to fix or guide. Through personal stories, we invite you to see holding space as a practice that opens the way for genuine connection and emotional freedom for everyone involved.
(00:00) Introduction to the Podcast and Hosts
Pernilla Burke and Louise Juel introduce themselves and share a bit about their backgrounds and the purpose of the podcast.
(00:48) Topic Introduction: "Holding Space"
The hosts introduce the episode’s focus on the concept of "holding space," setting the stage for an in-depth exploration of what it means in different contexts.
(01:12) Defining Holding Space: Personal Boundaries and Respect
They start by discussing the basics of holding space, emphasizing the importance of respecting boundaries and not intruding on another person’s emotional space.
(02:02) Real-Life Example: Parenting and Holding Space
Pernilla shares a personal story on the challenges of holding space as a parent, where the urge to fix often conflicts with the need to simply be present.
(03:45) Importance of Conscious Awareness
The conversation turns to how cultivating conscious awareness helps in holding space effectively, especially when emotions run high.
(06:08) Personal Story: Impact of Setting Boundaries
Pernilla reflects on an instance with her husband where setting clear boundaries around conversations created a healthier, more respectful space.
(10:09) Discovering Holding Space as a Yoga Teacher
Louise talks about her journey in understanding holding space through teaching yoga and how it extends to creating a safe environment for her students.
(15:10) Types of Holding Space: For Self, Family, and Students
The hosts outline the different types of holding space, from supporting loved ones to holding space for oneself, each requiring unique skills.
(18:10) The Role of Breath in Holding Space
They discuss the practice of using breathwork to center oneself, which fosters a calm, present state conducive to holding space.
(25:33) Everyday Practice: Holding Space While Driving
Pernilla gives a relatable example of how she uses the drive to school as a space to practice presence and calm, even in stressful moments.
(30:00) Managing Physical Needs for Self-Care
The importance of attending to physical needs like food, water, and rest is emphasized as foundational for creating the capacity to hold space.
(33:10) Holding Space in Crisis Situations
Pernilla recounts experiences where holding space was crucial during family health crises, highlighting the value of calm, supportive energy.
(39:33) Techniques: Practicing Awareness and Response
The hosts explore different techniques for building awareness, noting the importance of responding mindfully rather than reacting impulsively.
(43:07) Recap of Key Concepts and Takeaways
The discussion wraps up with a summary of the essential points on holding space and some practical takeaways for listeners.
(45:00) Closing Remarks and Final Thoughts
Pernilla and Louise thank listeners for joining and encourage them to integrate the practice of holding space into their own lives.
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