On this episode of The Blueprint Podcast, Jason Smith welcomes Dr. Taylor Burrowes, a relationship coach and creator of the transformative "vetting system" for dating. In this insightful conversation, Dr. Burrowes shares her expert approach to vetting potential partners, overcoming dating challenges, and building stronger, healthier relationships.
Jason and Dr. Burrowes discuss the biggest struggles men face in dating today, the dangers of chasing superficial connections, and how men can reclaim their confidence. Dr. Burrowes emphasizes the importance of compatibility beyond chemistry, emotional regulation, and the power of discernment in both dating and life.
From navigating long-distance relationships to understanding attachment styles, this episode offers essential advice for men (and women) seeking meaningful relationships. Dr. Burrowes also dives into her own personal journey as a former licensed mental health counselor turned relationship coach and new mom, sharing how her experiences shape the unique perspective she offers her clients.
Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or striving for personal growth, this episode is packed with actionable strategies to help you build better relationships and become the person you’re meant to be.
What You'll Learn:
The Vetting System - How to apply logic, desire, and love to find the right partner. Dr. Burrowes explains her tried-and-true system for selecting partners and making sound relationship decisions.
The Importance of Compatibility - Learn how to assess compatibility early in the dating process, looking beyond surface-level attraction.
Avoiding Dating Pitfalls - Discover the common traps people fall into during the dating process, such as "professional dating" and attachment system manipulation.
Emotional Regulation - Dr. Burrowes explains the importance of recognizing when you’re dysregulated and how to use upregulation and downregulation techniques to find calm in difficult moments.
Healthy Boundaries in Relationships - Learn how to establish healthy boundaries with exes, opposite-sex friends, and in new relationships.
Long-Distance Relationships - Tips for navigating long-distance dating successfully, including how often you should meet in person and why constant texting can be problematic.
Why Men Struggle in Modern Dating - A discussion on why older men often feel insecure about their attractiveness, and how to develop confidence through self-improvement and intentionality.
Social Media Vetting - Advice on how to use social media to present yourself authentically and vet potential partners without falling into the trap of "over-sharing" or "online stalking."
Breaking Toxic Relationship Cycles - How to identify and avoid toxic relationship patterns, as well as Dr. Burrowes’ approach to helping clients break free from these cycles.
Accountability and Self-Growth - Learn why taking personal responsibility for your growth is essential for finding a long-term partner.
Memorable Quotes:
"Logic, desire, and love. If you have all three, you’re on your way to an ideal relationship." — Dr. Taylor Burrowes
"Stop trying to impress people or chase people. The most important relationships come from being authentically you." — Dr. Taylor Burrowes
"Vulnerability for men is not oversharing your life story on the first date. It’s being authentic, honest, and grounded in who you are." — Jason Smith
"You’re not supposed to fix people you’re dating. Vet them well enough in the beginning so you’re not signing up for a project." — Dr. Taylor Burrowes
About Dr. Taylor Burrowes: Dr. Taylor Burrowes is a former licensed mental health counselor who transitioned into relationship coaching to help individuals and couples achieve fulfilling, long-lasting love. She’s best known for her "vetting system" that teaches people how to assess compatibility and alignment with potential partners. Dr. Burrowes works primarily with men, offering direct, no-nonsense guidance. As a new mom, she’s also navigating the world of family life while continuing to provide value to her clients and audience through social media and one-on-one coaching.
How to Connect with Dr. Taylor Burrowes:
Instagram: @taylorburrowes
Website: DrTaylorBurrowes.com
X: @TaylorBurrowes
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