115: Bullying or bravery? The dangers of cancel culture.

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The suicide of a young man at Oxford University has prompted a warning letter to the UK Government about 'cancel culture' on campus. The review into his death 'identified evidence of a concerning practice of social ostracism among students, often referred to as a cancel culture,' according the coroner.

'[The review's] evidence was that this behaviour, where individuals are isolated and excluded from social groups based on allegations or perceptions of wrongdoing, poses a significant risk to student mental health and well-being.'

I brought Susie in to talk about where cancel culture has come from, why it's become popular, and how we parents can help our kids be a force for good. 

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EPISODES: 

• Conflict resolution skills: https://www.teenagersuntangled.com/conflict-resolution-skills-can-deepen-your-relationship-with-your-teen-heres-how/
• Consequnces: https://www.teenagersuntangled.com/32-rules-consequences-and-the-teen-who-doesnt-seem-to-care/

BLOG about consequences:

• https://www.teenagersuntangled.com/blog/whats-going-on-when-our-boundaries-and-consequences-dont-seem-to-work/

Seven Ideas to Reduce Cancel Culture in Yourself or Your Students and Build Resilience from https://growingleaders.com/the-correlation-between-cancel-culture-and-resilience-in-students/:

1. Do not react on impulse. Think first. Give yourself a day to reflect.
2. Practice the 101% Principle. Find the 1% you agree on and give it 100% of your attention. 
3. Listen before you speak. Recover the art of really hearing from the other side. 
4. Phone a friend. Don’t respond in a vacuum. Include others’ perspectives before acting.
5. Apologize when and where you’re wrong. This goes a long way in fostering relationships. 
6. Forgive when appropriate. To make a mistake is human; to forgive is divine.
7. Build a bridge where there’s a wall. Find a way to connect with the opposing side.

https://comment.org/why-we-cancel/

https://www.depts.ttu.edu/rise/Blog/cancelculture.php
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/375520893_Cancelled_Exploring_the_Phenomenon_of_Cancel_Culture

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/education/article/oxford-student-took-own-life-after-ostracism-over-sexual-encounter-cjx389t5r
https://www.mindingthecampus.org/2024/08/27/the-dangerous-evolution-of-cancel-culture/

https://www.mindingthecampus.org/2024/08/27/the-dangerous-evolution-of-cancel-culture/

https://medium.com/@julesdixon/ostracism-social-exclusion-in-adulthood-8764ea1a4003

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Pl_86DNyN4cicero 

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