Tony Overbay, LMFT, explores how seemingly minor slights and manipulations in relationships can accumulate to cause significant emotional harm. Welcome to the 8th installment of Waking Up to Narcissism’s “Death by 1,000 Cuts” series.
In this episode, Tony delves deep into the subtle yet severe world of emotional abuse. Whether you're dealing with a narcissistic partner, emotionally immature family members, or challenging work colleagues, this episode is full of relatable stories and practical advice to help you understand and navigate these treacherous waters.
Tony shares listener-submitted poems and limericks that perfectly capture the pain and frustration of enduring countless small but stinging slights. He also shares personal anecdotes and listener stories to illustrate how these seemingly minor offenses can pile up, causing significant emotional damage over time.
Discover invaluable strategies for maintaining your emotional health, such as self-compassion, differentiating yourself emotionally, and setting healthy boundaries. You'll also learn the importance of documenting behavior patterns and trusting your gut feelings to reclaim your reality and foster your healing journey.
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00:00 Deathbycuts8
07:13 Introduction and Acknowledgements
08:06 Listener Contributions: Poems and Limericks
09:13 Understanding Emotional Cuts in Relationships
09:33 Host Introduction and Podcast Overview
11:36 The Free Throw Analogy: Preparation vs. Real Life
16:44 Applying Relationship Skills in Real Life
24:30 Listener Stories: Death by a Thousand Cuts
31:21 Roommate Frustrations
31:46 Financial Manipulation
32:21 Co-Parenting Conflicts
32:55 Family Event Disruptions
33:43 Emotional Immaturity in Relationships
42:03 Professional Sabotage
45:00 Phone Surveillance
47:08 Achievement Diminishment
48:07 Weaponized Routines
48:45 Financial Manipulation Revisited
50:30 Co-Parenting Undermining
51:09 Recognizing Patterns of Control
54:16 The Importance of Self-Compassion
