In this episode of Can This Be Fixed?, hosts Thais Gibson and Mike Di Zio dive deep into the complexities of attachment styles, offering personal insights and practical advice for anyone navigating relationships. Both former avoidants who have worked hard to become securely attached, Thais and Mike share their own experiences, discussing how they’ve overcome challenges and what they continue to work on.
This episode explores the reactions of fearful avoidants and dismissive avoidants after a heated argument and how it is handled by both attachment styles. Thais and Mike also discuss why certain attachment styles may or may not want children and the experiences leading up to those decisions. Whether you're trying to understand yourself or a loved one better, this episode provides valuable tools and perspectives to help you on your path.
Timestamps:
00:00:00 - Intro
00:02:12 - Viewer Question: Why Don’t Avoidants Want To Have Kids?
00:03:01 - Mike Shares His Reasons
00:06:07 - The Support System of Having Children
00:08:36 - Fear of Disempowerment
00:10:36 - Thais Shares from the Fearful Avoidant Perspective
00:13:14 - The Helicopter Parent
00:17:21 - Thais Answers Whether FAs Want Kids
00:19:10 - Shout Out to APs
00:20:01 - HelloFresh Ad
00:21:28 - Indeed Ad
00:23:21 - When Avoidants Freeze Up and Go Into Detachment Mode
00:24:23 - Mike Shares His Detachment Experiences
00:26:08 - Reconnection Phase
00:27:23 - Afraid of Overreacting and Saying Something Wrong
00:29:21 - Modelling From Parents
00:31:42 - Stonewalling and Icing the Other Person Out
00:36:38 - Fearful Avoidants and Spitefulness
00:41:58 - Mike Share His Insights How to Cope When a Partner Shuts Down
00:43:49 - Resolution
00:45:56 - Moving Forward
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