Let’s talk about the black-conscious parenting experience. Here is some truth to chew on…if you have unresolved trauma due to marginalization and racism, it can trigger a vicious generational parenting cycle.
In the process of trying to save our children from oppression, we can unintentionally become their oppressors. The truth is, the survival state shuts down empathy and triggers a stress response. Our childhoods have conditioned our brains to be reactive, and it takes time to go through the process of rewiring.
We have to not only see our children’s humanity but ours as well. You won’t be perfect and break all cycles; instead, the goal is to grow and have an improvement-focused mindset. It is like planting a seed; keep working on it, and you’ll make progress and impact generations to come.
Chazz Lewis is an Educational Specialist who “teaches teachers to teach” in a chain of Child Development Centers. He closely works with eight different schools, hundreds of teachers, and thousands of children. He coaches parents and helps them to see, guide, and build trust with children. He also has a podcast called “Mr. Chazz’s Leadership, Parenting and Teaching Podcast.”