We all do this. We encounter a woman who exudes confidence and instead of seeing them for who they are, we feel attacked. There’s like a secret code we live by as women where we play small, hide, and consciously choose to bury our own confidence. When we do that, we are not living life fully self-expressed. But when women start breaking that code, there will be others who feel threatened.
In this episode of Be You, I share personal experiences of how I have felt attacked by the confidence of other women. I also share the reactions I’ve had at different points in my life and journey. I can’t say I’m proud of my reactions, but the reason this is a topic for today’s episode is because I recently made the discovery of how far I’ve come. I’m still working and growing, but instead of trying to point out flaws, I’m finally able to see the beauty in others because I’m finally able to see the beauty in myself. It’s time you do the same.
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Show Notes:
[4:01] - When we are uncomfortable with the confidence of another woman, it will feel like a confrontation rather than an embrace.
[5:03] - Some women own who they are in the moment and exude confidence. Jill admits that that is something she has felt personally attacked by this discomfort.
[6:23] - This isn’t something we normally talk about because we either think we’re the only ones or we don’t want to bring attention to ourselves.
[7:05] - Jill shares the story of her mother-in-law criticizing her posting of selfies. Jill knew why she was doing it, but she did not.
[8:48] - When posting something new on the Be You Podcast, she had to take a moment to reflect on how she has done the same.
[10:14] - You will get to the point with this work where you will ask the question and the answer will sting. But as you keep going you won’t feel the sting anymore.
[11:16] - One day you won’t be triggered by this. Jill explains that when that happens, you can see the beauty in the confident women and learn the lesson.
[12:37] - Jill describes how the confident women in your life are mirrors of yourself.
[14:58] - When we encounter and critique a confident woman, we will try to find a flaw, put a spotlight on it, and stick it into conversations.
[16:40] - Because we do not feel as confident as another woman, we feel attacked.
[16:57] - Another thing we do is we attack a confident woman’s intentions and character.
[18:04] - If we don’t attack the other woman, we pretend they don’t trigger us.
[19:08] - Jill realized the growth she has made when she first saw Joy Harrington, a previous podcast guest.
[20:41] - What is your first honest reaction when encountering a strong and confident woman?
I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is. Thank you for being here today with me on our healing journeys.
