What do others think about you? What if they are judging your appearance or decisions? Better yet, what if they aren’t? We tell ourselves three major lies when it comes to the opinions of others and the worst part is that we are doing this to ourselves.
Today we are talking about something that every single person in this world encounters and struggles with: the need for approval. It is natural, but we can’t live our lives based on what we think others are thinking. So listen on for some experiences I have had in my life and some actionable steps you can take in your life to be you.
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[1:58] - It is very common to struggle with the need for approval but that most women feel like they are the only ones experiencing it.
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[2:47] - Jill gives an example of something that she has experienced in her life of getting feedback from people who don’t even know they’re giving you feedback.
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[5:57] - She realized that those women were really saying that they wished they didn’t care what others thought.
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[8:56] - A lot of women fear that it won’t look good or that their partner won’t approve of it.
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[10:18] - What your partner is attracted to is you being happy and comfortable in your own skin.
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[11:42] - There is likely another area of your life where the opinions of others matters to you.
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[12:08] - There are three lies that we tell ourselves. Jill discusses these three lies in her free ebook Be You and Break Free From the Opinions of Others.
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[12:41] - The first lie we tell ourselves is that others’ opinions matter.
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[13:06] - The second lie is that their opinion matters more than our own. And the third lie is that others actually care.
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[14:33] - Get a sticky note out and write down the names of the people whose opinion should matter to you. Be careful with this task.
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[15:45] - Jill also recommends breaking the list into categories. Do you value someone’s opinion about certain decisions but not others?
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[16:41] - Be sure not to put someone on this list due to obligation or guilt.
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[20:07] - We also tell ourselves that others actually pay attention to what you are doing. Everyone is wrapped up in their own lives that we know nothing about.
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[21:10] - What if people are noticing you because they are seeing the best in you?
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[24:26] - When you quiet your mind and tune into your heart, you know the answer, and you know the decision you should make.
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[25:13] - You don’t have to tell the people you put on your sticky note, but what if you did?
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[26:11] - Every single person out there, no matter how successful, is a work in progress. They are not better than you.
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[30:21] - When you acknowledge the freedom and power in another woman, you are giving permission to yourself to be you.
I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is. Thank you for being here today with me on our healing journeys.
