Someone with a goal is a force to be reckoned with. There’s no stopping them from planning for the future and making it a reality. They will make sure they’ll get to where they want to be and that everything will work out accordingly. But when something happens that drastically derails all your carefully laid out plans, you might be left staring at the wreckage and asking yourself, ‘So where do I go from here?’ And maybe thinking ‘I might as well give up’
In this episode, Angela’s husband Martin Cox shares his struggles with a brain injury during the past four months. With their family’s life plans thwarted and his health at a low point, he and Angela discuss how they got back on their feet. They did so by sticking to their goals and being open to changing the route to get there, being prepared to learn new things along the way.
Are you feeling discouraged because things aren’t working out the way you planned? Do you feel that perfectionism or ‘that’ll do’ mentality is holding you back? Then, this episode is for you!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
Hear about the challenging time Martin and Angela went through and how they are fighting back.
Find out how to get back on track when things don’t go according to how you’re planning for the future.
Discover the key to turning away from perfectionism while also not tolerating mediocrity.
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Episode Highlights
[1:01] Adapting to Drastic Life Changes
Early this summer, Angela and Martin were looking forward to a new lifestyle, a new job for Martin, a location move from the countryside to the middle of town.
They wanted to do so for better opportunities for their entire family.
As they were preparing to move, tragedy struck. On 19th June, whilst on an overnight trip to Swansea, Martin had a serious brain injury and was in and out of consciousness.
Through a recording, Angela shares how Martin’s memories, speech and walking ability were impaired.
[09:43] Planning for the Future and Sticking to the Plan vs Sticking to a Goal
Though he feels strange listening to the recording of himself and being aware of how tough it was for his family, Martin is glad to be feeling well again.
Despite what he went through, the goal of building a new life remained the same. However, how they would get there became different from their original plan.
While having a specific goal drives you forward, your plan on getting there has to remain adaptable, so it won’t be troublesome to manage.
In the hospital, Martin was able to think and work things out.
The experience also served as a massive lesson to Angela on sticking to a goal while remaining adaptable to change.
[13:47] Fighting Mediocrity and Standards
Martin and Angela are not a fan of mediocrity.
Martin’s experience in the hospital was more of an outlier’s case. This meant he was on a pathway that wasn’t fit for him.
But when you’re an outlier, you need a different way of working than what’s set out for most people.
Fighting against the benchmarks of mediocre successes, they realized that Martin's needs were not accessible in the hospital.
[16:21] Measures of Success
During his recovery in the hospital, there was a gap between goals.
What the hospital deemed as a success or improvement was different from Martin’s aspirations.
Martin and Angela struggled with their desire to stick to their plan and method. The hospital also had its own goals and methods, creating different measures of success.
They weren’t complacent and didn’t allow the hospital’s method to define their goals. So, they turned to experimentation and moved away from the idea of perfectionism.
Tune in to the full episode to hear more of Martin and Angela’s insights and experiences as they overcame this challenge.
[20:00] Martin’s Initial Diagnosis
Martin was in the orthopaedic ward because of his fractured skull. But his predominant injury was in his brain, so the people around
