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In today’s episode we are discussing setting boundaries during pregnancy and postpartum. Our guest is Trisha Goodall, she is a Mom Strategist, postpartum doula, life coach, and speaker. Trisha helps busy moms move from overwhelmed to joyful through customized strategies and virtual coaching!
In the episode we discuss:
Definition of Boundaries - neither kind nor unkind, like a fence designating what we will or will not allow
The importance of knowing ourselves to have solid boundaries - what is our "why" that we can lean on when we receive pushback?
The difference between boundaries and control (ie. "My partner can't go out with friends" vs "I need some time in the evening where I get a break from the baby" - how this can open up to meaningful, vulnerable conversations where both partners are solving the problem together rather than the pattern of mom having to figure it all out).
How to communicate boundaries and when might you not need to communicate them explicitly
People can't read our minds - don't assume it's a lack of respect.
Clear is kind.
My classic example is the postpartum phase when everyone wants to visit and moms can sometimes get overwhelmed and annoyed at people, while not communicating that.
Instead let people know the plan for a certain time interval (for the next 2wks, etc)
Have conversations during pregnancy with family
Designate a friend as the point of contact so that you're not doing everything as a new mom.
Despite family pressures, societal messages, and all of it - you are the mom and you are allowed to set boundaries to protect your sanity and mental health.
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