Today we explore our kids’ FREEDOM TO FEEL! This is the Q&A wrap-up to our weekly episode where we dive deep into our kids’ (and our!) struggles with big feelings. We explore how tantrums are a gift-- an opportunity to nurture our nervous systems, build emotional intelligence skills and maintain our connection through it all.
The big question is HOW can we sensitively support our kids’ big feelings when we ourselves can hardly keep it together? Dig in with us for a deeper understanding of why meltdowns happen, what we can do to support ourselves as well as our kids, and why it’s so critical that we attempt this. We’ll be exploring ways we can align our day-today struggles during kids' big feelings with our true goals for their future and ideals for our best selves, too. We laugh, we cry, we lean in. Join us!
Mental Mantras we explore:
- Feelings are information
- Gotta self-reg to co-reg, baby
- There's a need beneath the feeling
- It’s not an emergency
- Gotta find my happy place
- I need to make this better, not worse
- They just need my support
- This will pass
Relevant Links + resources that informed this episode:
- Upbringing’s Freedoms Model
- Upbringing’s RESIST Approach
- Interbrain- Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break The Stress Cycle and
Successfully Engage With Life by Stuart Shanker
- Self-regulation / Co-regulation
- Burnout by Emily & Amelia Nagoski
- The Body Keeps The Score by by Bessel van der Kolk
- Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne
- Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman
- Raising Humans by Ross Greene
- De-Escalate by Douglas E. Noll
- Now Say This by Julie Wright and Heather Sturgeon
- Hold Onto Your Kids: Why Parents Matter More Than Peers by Gordon Neufeld
- The Whole-Brain Child- Dan Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson
- The Good News About Bad Behavior by Katherine Reynolds-Lewis
- Non-Violent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B Rosenburg
- Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist
- Mary Schroeder, Upbringing’s Letterer
- Alex Olavarria, our producer, conductor, editor + husband/brother in law
Today’s episode is supported by A Kid’s Book About- a collection of beautifully designed books that kickstart challenging and empowering conversations between kids and their grownups.
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